Whoops, I accidentally offended you [General]
2016 Mar 20
"The wife" isn't offended. "The wife" doesn't like his liberal over-use of the term "fancy pants" when selecting a place to eat out, however. ;)
"The wife" is no different than many other common terms of endearment, and to me far less offensive than being referred to by a diminutive like "Sweetie" or "Darling".
"The wife" had a lovely evening out, dining at one of her favourite restaurants in the 'hood, and looks forward to doing it again soon!
"The wife" is no different than many other common terms of endearment, and to me far less offensive than being referred to by a diminutive like "Sweetie" or "Darling".
"The wife" had a lovely evening out, dining at one of her favourite restaurants in the 'hood, and looks forward to doing it again soon!
2016 Mar 20
On a related note - back when I was in my early teens my father for whatever reason asked me to never refer to him as "the old man" when talking amongst friends. And out of respect for him I never did. Not once.
But I know that for lots of people that is a term of endearment. Or more often than not, a completely neutral term to use. Who am I to judge?
But I know that for lots of people that is a term of endearment. Or more often than not, a completely neutral term to use. Who am I to judge?
2016 Mar 20
Curiously enough, one regular on this site is in the habit of referring to his spouse/partner as "the dragon lady", and nobody has ever said "peep" to him about it that I recall.
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2016 Mar 21
Yeah I basically never called out Rizak because it always seemed to me to be something they were both quite happy with. Which puts it firmly into the territory of none of my damned business.
2016 Mar 21
Seriously?!? I stand with you on your use of fancy-pants, zym.
I absolutely LOVE the term 'fancy-pants' and I use it all the time! But I might think twice about uttering those words on here now. ;-)
In addition to 'the term that must not be named', I adore scallops. And the overuse of exclamation points. I really do!! And starting sentences with 'and'.
EDIT: I just did a search of this site on 'the term that must not be named', and zym came up 6 times, and I came up 5 times!
I absolutely LOVE the term 'fancy-pants' and I use it all the time! But I might think twice about uttering those words on here now. ;-)
In addition to 'the term that must not be named', I adore scallops. And the overuse of exclamation points. I really do!! And starting sentences with 'and'.
EDIT: I just did a search of this site on 'the term that must not be named', and zym came up 6 times, and I came up 5 times!
2016 Mar 24
In my books, too much beer excuses just about anything on the Internet :-)
I started a discussion about this on my facebook page, and what I discovered was that no matter what term you use, someone won't like it. I had one strong feminist tell me that "my wife" was wrong because it assumed she was my possession. I had another strong feminist tell me that "the wife" was only wrong if I had more than one (she practices polyarmoury). The term "partner" was also problematic for many.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
What I learned was there will never be a term that everyone will be happy with. So we best just all deal with it.
I started a discussion about this on my facebook page, and what I discovered was that no matter what term you use, someone won't like it. I had one strong feminist tell me that "my wife" was wrong because it assumed she was my possession. I had another strong feminist tell me that "the wife" was only wrong if I had more than one (she practices polyarmoury). The term "partner" was also problematic for many.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
What I learned was there will never be a term that everyone will be happy with. So we best just all deal with it.
zymurgist
Sorry that you get offended by such trivialities Bobby Fillet
A google search suggests you are right and the therm "the wife" is sometimes considered slightly derogatory. But I'm afraid you cannot necessarily attribute that to someone else's use of the term. It is news to me that this is considered by some to be improper.
Growing up we proudly used the term "Bohunk" to refer to our Ukrainian heritage. It was not until I was in university that I learned it was a derogatory word. But guess what, I'm not letting anyone else steal it from me because we always used it proudly growing up, and I always will.
So if you don't like my use of a term, I would say that is your problem, not mine.